How to be a Supportive Husband, Wife, Friend, or Parent
Supportive Do's and Don'ts
Don't criticize the situation
Don't use resistive body language
Do be a good listener
Do offer a compliment
Don't suggest obstacles
Don't decide what they "should" do
Do realize we all get to be our own person
Do always take your friend's side
Don't let your kid always have their way
Do let them know you care
Do take interest in their activities
The Supportive Relationship
So many times I’ve been in a situation that called for me to be a supportive friend, mom, daughter or wife. Being supportive didn’t come natural at first. My instinct was to critique the situation, or even attempt to fix the problem.
But I learned that unless someone comes to you with a question such as, “What should I do?” or “What do you think about this,” your supportive role does not call for you to judge, criticize, or fix the problem. It took some time for me to realize this. But one day, the lightbulb came on and I realized that what really helps is to be a good listener and to have a caring heart.
If and when you are asked for input, resist the urge to tell them the brutal truth of what you really think. After all, this isn’t about you!
OK, now that you get the idea of the wrong thing to do in your supportive role as a parent, spouse, or friend, here is a better way to support your loved ones.